What next

Friday May 12, 2001 I was getting ready to leave for the football with my dad and I just knew something wasn't right so I did a pregnancy test.  I surprisingly got a positive result.  I quickly rang Andrew at work who had no idea that I was even doing a pregnancy test.  So he was shocked as you could imagine.  Meanwhile my Dad was calling out that we had to leave. 

So skip forward a week or so and I end up in hospital with hyperemesis.  This was to become a pattern for my pregnancy.  Throughout the short 31wks that I was pregnant I spent 10 wks all up in hospital.  This was for various reasons but mostly vomiting and dehydration.
In addition to being pregnant Andrew and I decided that with a baby on the way we needed to find our own home.  So we quickly arranged a homeloan and looked for a house to buy.  We eventually settled on a lovely little house just north of Wollongong, 5 mins walk to the beach, close to schools and transport. 

The week before we moved in I had a huge scare and went into labour.  I was only 25 wks pg at this point so it was very scary.  Andrew raced from work and I had a hairy ride in an ambulance thankfully the labour was able to be stopped.  I left hospital the day before we moved into our own home.  This was the day that I moved out of home for the first and last time.  Well this is a little bit of an exaggeration I did live next door to them for 3 yrs but Mum was always there.  Now she was going to be 45 mins away. 

The next few weeks were hard I was on total bedrest and Drew was working and trying not to worry about me.

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So I will start at the beginning

In 1997, I was told I had an aggressive form of cervical cancer that had gone from nothing (I had my regular pap smears) in the January to CIN3 by August the same year, this required an operation that removed 95% of my cervix.  In addition to this I was told at the time I had moderate to severe endometriosis and I had some cysts around my ovaries.  But the good news was that my tubes were fine!!
Anyway, I was told that my chances of conceiving were slim to none, so I best get used to the idea that I would never have children.  This was not an idea I ever really wanted to think about.  At 26 I was being told I would potentially never had children.  This to me was devastating, I truely thought that my purpose in life was to be a wife and mother and at 26 I was neither of these and was being told by drs that I would more than likely never be a mother.
Then things changed for me I had a chance phone call with my childhood sweetheart, he was a gorgeous man but we were never able to get things together when we were younger.  He was seperated from his wife (he left me for her at one stage), and would like to see me.  So we had dinner, he had a gorgeous 18mth old son, to make a long story short, we got back together and were planning a future together.  We both thought it was like going home.  Sadly, he was killed in a workplace accident in 1998, thus ending that dream.
Throughout all of this I had a wonderful friend whom I often turned to when things were down.  He was always there in the background.  My friends were starting to say to me what about Andrew.  I thought of him as my best friend.  Anyway, slowly one thing led to another and we starting dating.  But very early on I made it clear that my chances of children were in the words of the drs impossible and IVF was not something that I wanted to consider (knowing my personality I would get obssesed), he was ok with this and we married January 2001.  It was a beautiful day, glorious weather, surrounded by family and friends we married.
The plan for us was to stay living in my parents house while I finished my teaching degree.  Well someone else had other plans for us....

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My first blog

Wow I have finally taken the plunge and entered the world of blogging. I am not quite sure what I am doing or how much of my life I will expose, knowing me probably more than I should but there are no rules here right.

I hope that you will find my life with kids interesting and you will realise that your life with kids is just as much fun.

Cath